We need to change the direction in which marriages are heading in the world. Instead of separation and divorce, we need to get back to the basics. The first basic is the covenant. We must recognize and operate in the true covenant of marriage. God is the head and center of the covenant, and husbands and wives must line up with God to honor the covenant of marriage. When the husband is in line with God, then even his wife will be at peace with him, and vice versa. (Proverbs 16:7) This is not to say that your spouse is your enemy. But all it takes is one to fall in line and be obedient to God, and the other will follow. We must learn daily how to submit our own selves first to God, and then to each other.
Husbands and wives should operate in the freedom of Christ because in Christ, there is liberty. We must not insist on our own way, but seek to find God’s way. In a man’s mind, his own way is right. But this may not be the way in which God desires for you or your marriage. (Proverbs 14:12) There is freedom and uniqueness in Christ, and God has created us as peculiar people and different from one another. We look differently, think differently, we act differently, talk differently, and we do things differently. God made us different intentionally so that we may balance each other out. It is not your job to change your spouse to be more like you. They are NOT you, nor did God design them to be you. Allow your spouse to be all that God created them to be, and pray and speak life over their shortcomings. Don’t criticize, belittle, attack, or persecute them in their weaknesses. Rather do as God does and love them into a better person. God doesn’t say, “Look what you just did!” But instead, He loves us unconditionally and is quick to believe the best in us, even in our sin.
Husbands need to take their leadership position and wives need to take their supporting position. Get back to the basics of praying with each other every day. The husband’s model is Christ, and the wife’s model is the church. Husbands, love, cherish, and cover your wives. Wives, trust, follow, and respect your husbands. The Word says, “You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.” (1 Peter 3:7) This new year 2013 is the year of Christ, love, freedom and foundation. Let’s build our foundation on Christ, His love and the freedom thereof. Watch what God will do in our marriage. Praise the Lord!