As pastor’s wives we wear many hats, not just on our heads, but as a part of who we are. So early on in our ministries we learn to role play. We are wives, mothers, ministers, nurses, counselors, and many other roles too numerous to name. We put on the hat that’s needed for whatever situation we find ourselves in. Then one day we wake up to discover that we don’t know who the ” real you” is. We try so hard to be everything that everyone wants us to be only to turn around and mask the person we really are.
If you find that you have been held captive by someone else’s expectations and in the process lost you, then this wakeup call is for you. You will never be truly effective in ministry until people are allowed to experience the unveiled you. They don’t want to hear your mountain top speech pretending that you’ve made it! But rather they need to hear about the hills, valleys, and desert places you found yourself in where you saw no way out. People need to see the “real you” who was angry when you lost things because of ministry. Show them the woman who has weaknesses and doesn’t always have it together. This is not to imply that you reveal all your dirty laundry, but only for you to stop pretending that it’s not there.
Once the “real you” is revealed, share how you got through it. We go through trials and tribulations not only to make us strong, but also to use the experience to help the next person to come through their storm victoriously. Revealing the “real you” doesn’t take away the hats that you have to wear, but it releases the pressure and stress that can follow the busyness of the many areas you’re needed. It simply shows others that “Yes I am a woman of God ministering to you, but I am first a woman with real problems and experiences that I am now using to help you break free from your bondage!”
So women of God, I am encouraging you today to take a look in the mirror. What do you see? If you do not recognize the woman you see in your mirror’s reflection, get into God’s presence until the “Real You” comes forth! There’s someone who needs the “real you” to come forth so that you can lead them to freedom! Take off the mask and let the “real you” shine!