Infidelity is a subject that has come to the forefront of our media lately. We are seeing an increased number of pastors, as well as many pastors’ wives, falling into the trap of infidelity. Many of you may be thinking why is there an increase of infidelity among pastors and their wives?
Working in ministry is very demanding and stressful on a couple. Often, priorities are not where they should be and usually the spouse is the very priority that gets pushed down the list. I’m sure you’ve heard it said, “God first!” Yes that’s true you should put Him first. But you then need to turn your devotion and attention to your spouse first and your children next so that their needs are being met and no one is feeling neglected. Infidelity happens frequently when spouses turn away from each other emotionally. Pastors and their wives are guilty of doing this simply because it makes it easier to deal with the neglect. Secondly, it happens because sexual needs are not being met by one or both spouses. Just remember, if you don’t meet his or her needs, someone else will! Thirdly, infidelity happens because of inappropriate relationships with a member of the opposite sex. If you are having problems in your marriage, be careful with whom you share your information. Everyone that seems to be there for a listening ear oftentimes becomes more than just a listening ear. Don’t place yourself in a situation you may regret later.
Women of God, if you are a victim or a participant of infidelity, take some time to examine yourself and search why it happened and how you contributed to what happened. It is simple ladies. If you were a victim, identify where you were falling short in your marriage and do your part to change it. Then take the needed time to work on your marriage through counseling. Just make sure that forgiveness is a part of the process. You can’t move on until you forgive. But if you were the unfaithful spouse, you also need to identify why you cheated. If your spouse forgives and decides to restore the marriage, then be honest and reveal to them why. Both cases will require healing! Things will never be the same, but restoration can happen!
Infidelity has become a very large part of our society, but it doesn’t have to be in your marriage. When we have our priorities in perspective, the number of marriages experiencing infidelity will decrease! Your spouse should be the top priority in your life next to God and if they’re not, you’re in danger of falling into the infidelity trap!