Most couples do not realize how much they allow fear to consume their everyday lives. They fear the worst and fear the unknown. A lot of times, fears come from things people have seen or experienced or what has been seen in others’ lives. For example, if you were deceived or taken advantaged of by your parents, sibling or in previous relationship, then you’re likely to not trust, because you fear it will happen again. This becomes bondage over our lives; what you fear shall surely come upon you.
In order to turn this around, you must begin operating opposite of fear, which means you MUST HAVE FAITH. It’s easy to pick and choose what you put your faith towards. For some, you have faith that God can heal. You have faith that God can provide, but when it comes to putting your faith in God concerning your spouse, you struggle with this. Why is that you ask? Well, first of all, we know that your spouse is one with free will, and we struggle having faith with someone who has his or her own will. What we must understand is that God’s will for us is powerful and we can pray and ask God to intercede His will upon our lives.
The Word of God tells us to believe the best in others. This is very important to do concerning your mate. Sometimes we wake up expecting them to fail. We expect for them to make the mistake before it ever happens. What you don’t realize is that you are exercising faith when you do this, but your faith is in their failure, not their success. So right now, start to see your spouse in the place that you want them to be. When you believe the best in them, you begin to give them the benefit of the doubt in areas that you’ve been let down before.
Another important area of your faith is what you speak. Edification and building up your spouse is an area that can bring great reward. When some of us speak negatively about our mate to others, you are actually slandering them and this is considered sin. Your words are powerful and what you put out there begins to take root and grow. You want to make sure that you are speaking life over your mate and not death.
Lastly, your focus in your marriage should be one that’s positive and not negative. In all that you do and with every decision, you should always ask yourself, is this beneficial for my marriage or will this have a negative impact on my spouse? If you seek and believe for positive things in your marriage, then positive things will begin to happen. Circumstances may look one way, but God can immediately change a circumstance when you believe…and this applies to your spouse and to your marriage too. By faith, speak it, believe it, and it shall come to pass!