We asked Erica what advice she has for single women who want the best approach to dating. She shared that all single women have an opportunity when they:
1) “Let go and let God.” Have faith and believe, knowing that the man upstairs is the man who is going to take care of you.
2) Truly work on yourself. “You must fulfill and work on you first,” she said. “You may think you’re ready for someone but you never know when that someone is going to come. You may not be ready like you think you are!”
3) Date yourself. Erica explained that she learned the proper way of dating when she packed up and moved to Paris at 19 years old. She slept on the floor and the clothes that she wore doubled as her pillow at night. In a foreign country where they didn’t speak English like they do today, she had to learn to survive. This is where she learned to date herself. For anything and everything that she wanted to do, she was her own date and learned who she was in the process. She said she did not know this at that particular time, but once you become more aware, you have the opportunity to reflect. When she began to date her husband, he was shocked that she was comfortable going to restaurants or movies by herself. She said, “I knew me. Dating starts with self-first. You can’t do anything until you date yourself, love yourself, and know yourself!”
4) Define what you want. You must first know who God is and spend time with yourself to know who you are and what you like. Erica said it was always important to her that she not become a statistic as a woman who was dating a high-profile, well-established, financially secure man. She didn’t want to just date L.A. or have his child. She knew that she deserved more. “As women we deserve more than a check, more than someone buying us shoes, buying a nice bag, and paying our rent! We are setting examples for our children! We deserve more than that and we are not to settle!”