When the outside world views the life of the pastor’s wife, they can only see what is in front of them. She is dressed well and seemingly has a very glamorous life and one that many envy. But what is she like behind the scenes when the cameras are off, the members are gone, and she crosses the threshold of her home? Often times her life is a nightmare behind closed doors. Behind the scenes, the same man that everyone idolizes in public turns into her worst nightmare. Sadly this has become the reality in the lives of many pastor’s wives. The world should not be surprised when situations like this come to the light because she can only hide so much before an explosion will take place. We should always look at the pastor’s wife as a woman just like us, who happens to be married to a pastor. She has real life issues and problems just like we do.
We now live in a world where people only want to acknowledge the woman of God they see and forget that her life may not be as glamorous as it is perceived to be. Many of these women are experiencing verbal, mental, sexual, and physical abuse but are in this very public lifestyle and don’t know how to get out without destroying their family, church or image. The abuse is not the only thing she may be facing, but infidelity as well as addictions are very real issues that are common. You may be thinking, “Not her; she’s the pastor’s wife and married to a man of God;” but yes even her! The enemy really doesn’t care how he destroys, and he’s more effective when he uses the very closest person to you to take you out. But to those women who find themselves in this situation, you really need to stop and think about your safety and your peace. No amount of money, material things, or anything is worth you constantly being abused, misused, and disrespected!
For the pastor’s wife who finds that she is living a nightmare behind the scenes, just remember that you are important and you need to take care of you. God has not forgotten about you and he promised that He wouldn’t put more on you than you can bear! You were promised an abundant life and you don’t have to settle for anything less; therefore, hold your head up and reach within to find the strength that He gave you to overcome! You are the daughter of a King and you should demand the royal treatment! Your price my sister is far above rubies and no price can capture your worth because you are the “Far Above Woman!” You can wake up from your nightmare and live the dream life God has promised you.