There used to be a series on television called “In the House”. The premise was based on a single mother raising two children alone, and then comes along a “housekeeper” to assist. Let stop right there. Too many times when we look into the window of black households we see a commonality of who’s “in the house”. We see a mother and we see children, but seldom do we see fathers who are “in the house” and this needs to change.
Luther Vandross sung about turning a house into a home. From the perspective of a father to other fathers, we are needed in the home. We must remain in the true definition of what a household or home is. We know the definition of the church or “house” of God is the complete body of Christ. This means if you are a member of the church, you should remain active, you should visit, and you should contribute. In the same vein, the mother, father and children make up the complete body of the house. We all have roles; we all must remain active. If you are a father who does not live with your children, you must visit them. You must contribute to the raising and wellbeing of them.
As a man and as a father, YOU MUST REMAIN “IN THE HOUSE.” You must realize that the foundation of the home is breaking down because fathers are not in their proper positions. We must swallow the pride and the pain. We must lead whether “home or away.” Father’s must realize that if God provided us the means to plant seeds and procreate, we must also know that we must stay in position to cultivate and maintain.
“Where is daddy?” should never be a question a child has to ask. It is one of the duties of a father to ensure it is not asked by their child. In an ideal society, parents would live together as husband and wife; the children would wake up every day and receive love from both parents. The entire “house” would be on one accord. As society dictates, unfortunately we do not live in an ideal world. We must roll with the punches and play with the hand that we are dealt. What this means is that no matter the living situation, relationship status or court decision, fathers must stay in the lives of their children. Fathers must remain “In the House.”